Getting Better, Inspiration

Let’s Get It Started In Here!

You get excited when you read motivational quotes and post then on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. You cheer when a speaker lays down a nugget of wisdom that makes you jump from your seat. You put your nose down, determined to make the quote and nugget an integral part of your life. It’s there for about a day or two, then you forget about it as life gets in the way and you fall back into your old behaviors.

You’ve heard that a personal growth and development plan must be a part of your everyday life. You know it’s important because it will help new behaviors and habits stick, but you don’t know how to start a plan or where to begin or what to do. You are not alone. Very often, people ask me when they should start a personal development plan or if they are too old to start one.  My answer to both questions is Start Now!

No matter what happened in your past or what you thought yesterday, you can start living a different life with new behaviors and habits today.   After all, the cells of your body don’t stop changing when you reach 18 years of age, so why should the way you think or view life stop evolving at a given point in time?  If you have a desire to improve yourself and your life, embrace it! There are three initial steps you must take to begin your personal growth and development plan: Continue reading “Let’s Get It Started In Here!”

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Encouragement

Live Your Joy Now

I received this message the other day from a very good friend. It really touched me because as humans, we tend to see the negative and the lack in our lives faster than anything else. This message reminded me to stop and see the joy and richness that is, in fact, in my life right now so I thought I would share this with you:

 

Don’t wait for life to be perfect, or fret and complain that it is not. Live it as it comes, doing all you can, thankful for each day, enthusiastic about making it count.

Happiness does not suddenly appear when you get what you want. Happiness is a state of being that empowers you to create what you choose.

Rather than harboring resentment about what you lack, be resourceful with all you have. Feel your miraculous ability to make a difference, and put it to work.

If all your dreams had already come true, you’d have nothing to look forward to. If everything was perfect, you’d have no way to make a positive difference.

Expect great things, but don’t let joy be held hostage by your expectations. Live your joy now, with the way things are, as imperfect as they may be.

Despite its flaws, this time, this place is your opportunity to live with richness and fulfillment. Stop wishing for it to have been different, and start living at your highest and best right now.

© 2017 Ralph S. Marston, Jr.

 

Inspiration, Motivation

The Toxicity Inside

deadly-98846_1280I think no one would argue that as people we have a bent toward the negative. That is, we will believe something negative, do something negative and say something negative faster than we will believe, do or say something positive. The question I’ve been asking myself lately is why? Why do we naturally embrace toxicity? I think the answers rest within you.

You don’t truly love who you are. We each have two eyes, two ears, a nose and a mouth but we are each unique. In a world full of millions of people, no two have the same set of fingerprints, not even twins – unique. You may have likes and talents like another but if you take the time to look closely you will see that there is something different. Unless you love yourself, you’ll never be happy and toxicity will fester in you. How can you learn to love yourself and embrace your uniqueness? Think of the things you do when you love another person – you enjoy the things that person likes, you enjoy being with that person, and you speak well of that person. Do these things for yourself even when no one else does. Continue reading “The Toxicity Inside”

Encouragement

What Every Spectacular Failure Has in Common

The  link to this blog post showed up in my email the other day, mainly because I subscribed to the newsletter. I read the post and it resonated with so much with me that I wanted to share it with you. You see, I’m going through a period in my life where I’m being held accountable. I don’t like it. I’m very uncomfortable but I know it’s necessary for me to grow as a person.  This blog post gave me another perspective on accountability and I hope it will do the same for you. Here is it:

What Every Spectacular Failure Has in Common

By Andy Andrews

My office has been described as pretty weird.

Whatever you’re picturing, that’s not it—I guarantee you. Yes, I have two desks, chairs, computer monitors, and the usual office items. But what makes my office unique is every wall surrounding the entire room is full of bookshelves. And on these shelves are thousands of different items. Yes, thousands.

But there’s one spot, on a section of wall to your right when you first walk in, that is particularly important. This part of the wall is devoted entirely to the people who have had a big influence on my life. It’s a collection of family, mentors, and friends who continue to remind me of what’s important. Continue reading “What Every Spectacular Failure Has in Common”

Encouragement, Motivation

Get Out and Stay Out!

I recently expanded my coaching business to help people produce clear and persuasive writings with my professional editing and proofreading services. (Professional Editing and Proofreading Services) I was recently editing client’s work wherein she talked about a very familiar story. She explained the significance of the story in such away that I jumped out of my chair and experienced a huge, A-HA, WOW moment! I was so excited! She raised a point in the story that I knew but for some reason, didn’t fully realize. The magnitude of that point just overwhelmed me. You are probably asking, “What was the story?” Here it is: Continue reading “Get Out and Stay Out!”

Getting Better, Goals

Personal Development Apps

We all know that personal development encompasses not only shifting the way using-smartphone-saidaonlinewe think but also shifting the way we take care of our bodies, finances, emotions, relationships and our spiritual relationship. (see It’s All Part of the Same Pie). Fortunately for us today, we live in an app-centered world and our smartphones and tablets to help us in making these shifts. The apps are available for both iOS (Apple) and Android devices and some can also be used on your computer. Here are some:

1. Mental. How you think determines how you act. Upgrade and sharpen your thinking through reading or listening to uplifting material and playing proven brain games.

a. Audible.com (Android, iOS & Windows) – A plethora of books on self-development you can listen to as you commute, workout or just sit quietly at home sipping a glass of wine. The app is free as is the first 30 days of your Audible subscription. After 30 days, the cost is $14.95 per month, but you can cancel at anytime. Continue reading “Personal Development Apps”

Goals, Perfectionism, The PLAN A Way To Success

I Hate Goals!

It’s the beginning of a new year and everyone is talking about setting goals. I hate goals! They are the bane of my existence. Every January, I would think about what goals I wanted to reach and write them on paper along with a goal date. I would go the extra distance and post them around my house. And then life would happen and I wouldn’t reach my goals. I’d feel bad, wonder what was wrong with me and view goal setting as an empty exercise. But last year, something happened… I set some goals and reached them! I am so excited now and my goal setting model is changed forever! I’m assuming you feel the same way about goals or you wouldn’t be reading this post so I going to share with you my new Continue reading “I Hate Goals!”