Encouragement, Getting Better

Are You The Judge (Part 2)

Gavel | Andrew F. Scott: P6033602
Gavel | Andrew F. Scott: P6033602 (Photo credit: afsart)

This post on judging people was supposed to give you tools to help you to stop judging others.  I decided to hold off on the helpful tools post because I needed to make sure I wasn’t just spouting off and was talking about something personal to me.

 In case you are not one of my regular readers, you should know the purpose of my blog is to share my experiences and personal growth lessons I am learning at this juncture in my life.  So when I finished the first post on judging people I wondered why I felt compelled to write it. Now when I use the word “judge or judging”, I mean making a decision or assumption about someone before you meet and talk with him or her.  In the first post, I admitted to being guilty of judging people.  But the more I thought about why I was writing the post the more I came to realize Continue reading “Are You The Judge (Part 2)”

Getting Better

Are You The Judge? (Part I)

Gavel & Stryker
Gavel & Stryker (Photo credit: KeithBurtis)

Have you ever seen a stranger across the room and, based on what you see, made a decision about that person?  Have you ever made a judgment about a person based on what he or she does for a living or has done in the past?  Of course you have. We all do it. I’ve done it to other people and people have done it to me.

Judging someone is about forming an opinion about that person without all the facts, before you get to know him or her.  I’m not going to talk about how wrong it is to judge another person because I think you already know that.  I’m going to point out how judging someone hurts you in three specific ways: Continue reading “Are You The Judge? (Part I)”

Encouragement, Getting Better, Motivation

It Was Achieved On Account Of

The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines accountability as subject to giving an account; answerable.  We are not strangers to accountability.  In our youth, we were accountable to our teachers, our parents and other authority figures. As adults, we are accountable to our bosses and supervisors, maybe spouses.  In most instances, our accountability is involuntary – a relationship forced upon us which we grudgingly accept.  Many times, the relationship leaves such bad taste in our mouths that hearing the word “accountability” makes us break out in a cold sweat.

We are all adults now and it’s time to do a paradigm shift, to learn a new way of viewing accountability, to see it as a good thing. Why? Because accountability benefits your personal growth in several ways:

1. It keeps you focused.  Unexpected situations and events come along which require your immediate, and sometimes long-term, time and attention.  That’s life.  Accountability helps to get you back on track.

2. It produces long-lasting big results. Continue reading “It Was Achieved On Account Of”

Anointed Women In Christ, Getting Better, Motivation

It’s Never Too Late

It is never too late to be who you might have been.
George Elliot

 My posts to my blog have been few and far between this year.  Shame on me.  While I am focusing on writing my book and writing for Anointed Women in Christ Blog (http://anointedwomeninchrist.wordpress.com), these are not excuses for neglecting my readers.   I will do better starting today.  It’s funny though – the moment I decided to take my writing seriously and dedicate a block of time to it everyday, topics and words disappeared from my head.  The other day, I came across the George Elliott quote above and rebooted myself.  Since I am putting a lot of my stories on personal development into my book, I don’t want to put them here (then you won’t buy my book!!).  But since personal development and re-invention are dear to my heart and I don’t want to you hanging, I will feed you from sources other than my experiences.

 It is never too late to be who you might have been.

Very often, people ask me when they should start their personal development process or if they are too old to start one.  No matter what happened in your past and no matter what you thought yesterday, Continue reading “It’s Never Too Late”

Encouragement, Getting Better, Motivation

Express Yourself!!

I like to encourage people to invest in themselves via personal development. Personal development is very near and dear to me.  I have immersed myself into the subject for over 12 years and have witnessed my personal growth. That’s why I devoted this blog to the subject.  While there are many keys, or elements, to personal development, there is one key most people overlook or don’t know about.  That key is to regularly do something you like.

One of the things I love doing is sewing.   Mrs. Spriggs, my neighbor when I was a little girl, knew how to sew and I would spend hours with her while she cut, pinned and sewed fabric with her magic machine into dresses.  I was enthralled.  A few years ago, I had the opportunity to take a beginner’s sewing class and my love for sewing has grown.  Continue reading “Express Yourself!!”

Getting Better, Leadership, Reading4Champions Book Club

Reading4Champions: The Traveler’s Gift

Hello Champions!

We have read many books over the past year.  Each book has helped us to re-think the way we view ourselves and life so we can become better individuals.  I highly recommend that you re-read these books a year or two from now.  You will find you that pick up concepts you didn’t on your first read.  I know that is what I have experienced.  Now, to our book for the month of January.  I am giving you this book now because it might influence the New Year’s resolution you make.  It did for me.  Besides, the book is a great read for champions.  The name of the book is “The Traveler’s Gift” by Andy Andrews.  

This book really resonated with me.  Although it is a story, I found myself Continue reading “Reading4Champions: The Traveler’s Gift”

Getting Better, Procrastination

Watch Your Mouth!

I am writing today about a pet peeve of mine.  Anyone who knows me will be vigorously nodding their heads because 9 times out of 10, I have already called them on it.  What am I talking about?  What you say out of your mouth.

From childhood, we know the saying “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” and we used it to steel ourselves against playground teasing.  Did it work? NO!  Why?  Because words can kill.  They can cut deep into our spirit, our psyche, and cause us deep psychological wounds that sometimes never heal.  In elementary school, I was teased for knowing the answers in class and being an A student.  In high school, I’ll never forget when my history teacher, after distributing a list of extra credit assignments that could be done, announced in front of the class that I was not allowed to do extra credit because my grade was already high.  Can we say embarrassed?   Continue reading “Watch Your Mouth!”