Getting Better, Procrastination

Watch Your Mouth!

I am writing today about a pet peeve of mine.  Anyone who knows me will be vigorously nodding their heads because 9 times out of 10, I have already called them on it.  What am I talking about?  What you say out of your mouth.

From childhood, we know the saying “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” and we used it to steel ourselves against playground teasing.  Did it work? NO!  Why?  Because words can kill.  They can cut deep into our spirit, our psyche, and cause us deep psychological wounds that sometimes never heal.  In elementary school, I was teased for knowing the answers in class and being an A student.  In high school, I’ll never forget when my history teacher, after distributing a list of extra credit assignments that could be done, announced in front of the class that I was not allowed to do extra credit because my grade was already high.  Can we say embarrassed?   Continue reading “Watch Your Mouth!”


Thanking and Giving

Each year, between November 1st and December 31, people focus on thanking and giving…… just in time for the Thanksgiving and Christmas seasons.  Thinking of others is good, but thanking and giving are not relegated to a season. Thanking and giving are for everyday

The Bible says:

    “[i]n everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” 1Thessalonians 5:18

Think you have no one to thank or no reason to thank everyday?  Well, for a moment, sit back and see yourself standing on a street corner with nothing but the clothes you have on right now.  Imagine you have no home, no possessions, no job, no money, no family and no friends.   Continue reading “Thanking and Giving”

Getting Better

Still Learning After All These Years

I’ve been going through some tough times lately.  I’ve felt like I was drowning.  Very often, I felt like sitting in the middle of the floor and doing nothing. . . forever.  I wanted to give up on my dreams.  But I didn’t.  I kept going even though I didn’t see any end and I learned some life lessons as I went along.

1. Attitude is everything.   I know you have heard that saying before.  But during my trials, I truly realized attitude is not everything, it is the thing.  How you respond to any given situation is a choice which can make you or break you.   I decided to have a positive attitude.  I reminded daily myself that my trials were temporary and I spoke about them as being temporary to the people I confided in.   Continue reading “Still Learning After All These Years”


What Am I Thinking???

 A former co-worker once complimented me on my attitude. She said I was different from the other people at work; I was so positive. After thanking her, I told her I didn’t watch the news (people will tell you bad news whether you ask or not) and I read lots of self-development, self-improvement books. She asked for a list of the books I had read. I started going through my library to make the list and, to my surprise, I had read a lot of self-improvement books.

You see, it wasn’t that I was not a reader. After college, I read plenty of romance novels (you know, the ones with a picture of a woman with big hair and the silhouette of a shirtless buff man in the background on the cover). But I had started a business in 1999 and my business partners, my mentors, encouraged me to read books that would improve me as a person. Books that would change my thinking for the better. And since I wanted to be successful like them and I read the books they read. However, before my co-worker said something, I didn’t realize the books had affected me. Continue reading “What Am I Thinking???”


Procrastination: It’s A Mind Thing

I am a procrastinator.  I said this all the time and freely used it as an excuse to myself for why only eight out of 15 tasks on my daily To Do lists got done.  I procrastinate – it was my mantra.  I owned it totally.  It was me.  And I felt bad about undone tasks.  I felt like an underachiever.

Then one day, I started to think….why am I a procrastinator?  Was the root the traditional reasons experts give (you know – fear, lack of focus, task so big you don’t know where to begin so you don’t, poor time management skills, TV)?  But, I had tried the experts’ traditional fixes for these, but they didn’t work for long. So was the root something else?  Continue reading “Procrastination: It’s A Mind Thing”