My Journey to Me-The Discovery

It’s August….the heat has let up for now….it’s not raining today… Whatever the reason, I thought I would do some self-assessment this week. If you read my blogs, you know I believe self-improvement is critical in anyone’s life. You know I read motivating books and magazines, and listen to positive tapes. (if you don’t know, you can click Books on Personal Development in the top Menu).

Recently, I attended a leadership boot camp. For my company, boot camp means honest talk and guidance to get you to the next level in your personal development; to get you out of your comfort zone so you will become a better person, a better leader. As Tim Ferriss, author of The 4-Hour Workweek, says, “The most important actions are never comfortable.” Continue reading “It’s Hard To See The Picture When You Are In The Frame” →

Getting Better

Words of Wisdom

November 1, 2011 My Journey to Me-The Discovery

The other day I was thinking (yes, I still think) about some of the “words of wisdom” I have read or heard that I find continuously and positively influence me. I remember these things when the road in my life gets rocky and when situations don’t work out the way I thought. I really lean on them when I start to second guess myself and feel I should “conform to the norm” and not do what’s right for me.

I don’t remember where I read or heard all of these “words of wisdom”. But for the ones I do, I will let you know. Here goes: Continue reading “Words of Wisdom” →

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The Joke’s on Me!

November 1, 2011November 1, 2011 My Journey to Me-The Discovery

I read The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For? by Rick Warren a couple of years ago. I am writing about it here because, while the whole book was excellent, one chapter had, and still has, a profound effect on me, shaping my thinking and actions.

Chapter 2 is called “You Are Not An Accident”. At the end of the chapter, the reader is given this question to consider the following question: “I know that God uniquely created me. What areas of my personality, background, and physical appearance am I struggling to accept?” Well, I no problem whatsoever with that question!! This is what I wrote: Continue reading “The Joke’s on Me!” →

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What Am I Thinking???

October 31, 2011October 31, 2011 My Journey to Me-The Discovery

A former co-worker once complimented me on my attitude. She said I was different from the other people at work; I was so positive. After thanking her, I told her I didn’t watch the news (people will tell you bad news whether you ask or not) and I read lots of self-development, self-improvement books. She asked for a list of the books I had read. I started going through my library to make the list and, to my surprise, I had read a lot of self-improvement books.

You see, it wasn’t that I was not a reader. After college, I read plenty of romance novels (you know, the ones with a picture of a woman with big hair and the silhouette of a shirtless buff man in the background on the cover). But I had started a business in 1999 and my business partners, my mentors, encouraged me to read books that would improve me as a person. Books that would change my thinking for the better. And since I wanted to be successful like them and I read the books they read. However, before my co-worker said something, I didn’t realize the books had affected me. Continue reading “What Am I Thinking???” →

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Procrastination: It’s A Mind Thing

October 30, 2011October 31, 2011 My Journey to Me-The Discovery

I am a procrastinator. I said this all the time and freely used it as an excuse to myself for why only eight out of 15 tasks on my daily To Do lists got done. I procrastinate – it was my mantra. I owned it totally. It was me. And I felt bad about undone tasks. I felt like an underachiever.

Then one day, I started to think….why am I a procrastinator? Was the root the traditional reasons experts give (you know – fear, lack of focus, task so big you don’t know where to begin so you don’t, poor time management skills, TV)? But, I had tried the experts’ traditional fixes for these, but they didn’t work for long. So was the root something else? Continue reading “Procrastination: It’s A Mind Thing” →

Poll

Poll – What Are Your Challenges?

October 30, 2011October 31, 2011 My Journey to Me-The Discovery

For some reason, we think when we are facing a challenge or challenges, that we are the only person in the whole wide world who has EVER faced that challenge. If you think like this, STOP NOW! It is sooo untrue. The one thing I have learned in talking with people is that, for the most part, we all have the same challenges in life. The only difference between you and the person “who has it all together” is, the person hasn’t really shared with you. I mean, if you sat down with the person and both of you shared yourselves, had a real heart to heart conversation, you would most probably find the person has faced the same challenge (s) you face. The person, however, learned to overcome, or go through, the challenge and is now stronger for it. I’ve reached this revelation from sharing with my friends and business partners. And in sharing, I realized I truly am not alone, have created closer bonds with others and have been strengthened and encouraged.

So in this posting, I am taking a poll on this question: What challenge do you face most often?

I am doing a poll so you can share and I can, hopefully, strengthen and encourage you. The poll is on the left margin of my blog page. It will be open from August 11, 2010 to August 19, 2010. After August 19th, I will take the challenge most faced and, if I have not already written about, I will write a blog post sharing how I handled or am handling the challenge. You can only pick one challenge (sorry!). Tell your friends about the poll; the more the merrier!

(poll originally posted August 11, 2010)

Goals

It Ain’t All About Achieving The Goal

October 30, 2011October 31, 2011 My Journey to Me-The Discovery

Set a personal goal, write it down, break down the goal into do-able steps, add a completion date and you will achieve it. You will live happily ever after! Sound familiar? It should. We’ve all heard this at one time or another. And since I wanted to live happily ever after, I went through the process of writing down goals with a completion date. Some I accomplished and some I didn’t. For the goals I didn’t accomplish, I would do the process again….and again…and again. But when I saw I wasn’t accomplishing a goal again and again, I stopped writing it down, and as you expect, the goal got lost in life. To me, a goal was the “be all and the end all”. If I wasn’t “being all” then why bother. I lived like this for years.

What I didn’t realize is, although achieving a goal is important, there is more going on than meets the eye. Continue reading “It Ain’t All About Achieving The Goal” →