Month: October 2011

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What Am I Thinking???

My Journey to Me-The Discovery

 A former co-worker once complimented me on my attitude. She said I was different from the other people at work; I was so positive. After thanking her, I told her I didn’t watch the news (people will tell you bad news whether you ask or not) and I read lots of self-development, self-improvement books. She asked for a list of the books I had read. I started going through my library to make the list and, to my surprise, I had read a lot of self-improvement books.

You see, it wasn’t that I was not a reader. After college, I read plenty of romance novels (you know, the ones with a picture of a woman with big hair and the silhouette of a shirtless buff man in the background on the cover). But I had started a business in 1999 and my business partners, my mentors, encouraged me to read books that would improve me as a person. Books that would change my thinking for the better. And since I wanted to be successful like them and I read the books they read. However, before my co-worker said something, I didn’t realize the books had affected me. Continue reading “What Am I Thinking???” →

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Procrastination: It’s A Mind Thing

My Journey to Me-The Discovery

I am a procrastinator.  I said this all the time and freely used it as an excuse to myself for why only eight out of 15 tasks on my daily To Do lists got done.  I procrastinate – it was my mantra.  I owned it totally.  It was me.  And I felt bad about undone tasks.  I felt like an underachiever.

Then one day, I started to think….why am I a procrastinator?  Was the root the traditional reasons experts give (you know – fear, lack of focus, task so big you don’t know where to begin so you don’t, poor time management skills, TV)?  But, I had tried the experts’ traditional fixes for these, but they didn’t work for long. So was the root something else?  Continue reading “Procrastination: It’s A Mind Thing” →

Poll

Poll – What Are Your Challenges?

My Journey to Me-The Discovery

For some reason, we think when we are facing a challenge or challenges, that we are the only person in the whole wide world who has EVER faced that challenge.  If you think like this, STOP NOW! It is sooo untrue.  The one thing I have learned in talking with people is that, for the most part, we all have the same challenges in life.  The only difference between you and the person “who has it all together” is, the person hasn’t really shared with you.  I mean, if you sat down with the person and both of you shared yourselves, had a real heart to heart conversation, you would most probably find the person has faced the same challenge (s) you face.  The person, however, learned to overcome, or go through, the challenge and is now stronger for it.  I’ve reached this revelation from sharing with my friends and business partners.  And in sharing, I realized I truly am not alone, have created closer bonds with others and have been strengthened and encouraged. 

So in this posting, I am taking a poll on this question: What challenge do you face most often?

I am doing a poll so you can share and I can, hopefully, strengthen and encourage you.  The poll is on the left margin of my blog page.  It will be open from August 11, 2010 to August 19, 2010.   After August 19th, I will take the challenge most faced and, if I have not already written about, I will write a blog post sharing how I handled or am handling the challenge.  You can only pick one challenge (sorry!).  Tell your friends about the poll; the more the merrier!

(poll originally posted August 11, 2010)

Goals

It Ain’t All About Achieving The Goal

My Journey to Me-The Discovery

Set a personal goal, write it down, break down the goal into do-able steps, add a completion date and you will achieve it.  You will live happily ever after!  Sound familiar?  It should.  We’ve all heard this at one time or another.  And since I wanted to live happily ever after, I went through the process of writing down goals with a completion date.  Some I accomplished and some I didn’t.  For the goals I didn’t accomplish, I would do the process again….and again…and again.   But when I saw I wasn’t accomplishing a goal again and again, I stopped writing it down, and as you expect, the goal got lost in life.  To me, a goal was the “be all and the end all”.  If I wasn’t “being all” then why bother.  I lived like this for years.

What I didn’t realize is, although achieving a goal is important, there is more going on than meets the eye.  Continue reading “It Ain’t All About Achieving The Goal” →

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Why You Shouldn’t Be Perfect

My Journey to Me-The Discovery

As I write this, I am thinking perfectionism fits perfectly here right after the topic of achieving personal goals since the two can be intertwined.  I am the type of person who starts something brand new on Monday and expects to be perfect at it by Friday (of the same week).  Yes, I am a closet perfectionist. (I guess since I am writing this, I am no longer in the closet!)  And I had been frustrated a lot of times in my life.

I learned a valuable lesson about perfectionism from my granddaughter. Continue reading “Why You Shouldn’t Be Perfect” →

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Guest Blogger

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I want to use my weekly post to thank Robert Wingfield for allowing me to be guest blogger for his blog, The RAW Blog. (http://rawblog.posterous.com/)  Let me tell you a little bit about him.  He is a native of Nashville, TN and a graduate of the illustrious HBCU Fisk University (yeah Fiskite!).  Rob is a media consultant in Nashville and blogs about current events, food, music and entertainment.  I have known Rob for a long time and felt greatly honored that he would allow me to express myself to his followers.  Check out his blog.

And while I am talking about guest blogging, if you (yes, you) would like to write something, anything, to be posted on my blog, email me at myjourneytome@gmail.com.  Be glad to have you! 

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THAT Stirring

My Journey to Me-The Discovery

Ever read or hear a message then felt something jump inside of you so much tears came into your eyes? Yes? That feeling, that stirring means you were supposed to read or hear those words at that point in time. It means those words were meant just for you, even if you are sitting in a vast audience.

The other day, I was idly going through my emails and opened an email update of a blog I subscribe to. The title of the blog post was catchy because I was feeling that way. I started to read the post. And something jumped deep inside of me, I was overwhelmed and I cried. But I was energized and eager to conquer my day! And I did!

So the next time you get that feeling, that stirring, don’t ignore it. You might miss something great about you. What did I read you ask? It was “Are You Stuck?’by Darren Hardy, Publisher of SUCCESS magazine. Click the title to read it. Enjoy!

 Question for Comment: Have you ever experienced that stirring? What did you do about it?

(originally posted July 27, 2010)